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April 26, 2014
Being still is both a science and an art. Being still, we become aware of subtle meanings And of the relationships between our experiences. Let us be still and reflect on what we have to be thankful for.
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April 26, 2014
When I was young (and in some ways, I am every age I've ever been) I was attracted to excitement. With maturity has come a passion for peace. Peace of mind; Peace in my space; Peace in relationships; Peace within my heart:Dad at Drakes 002.thumbnail
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April 26, 2014
If the Creator allows it, it is because our choices have called the lesson.  We are neither victim nor innocent, but architects of our fate.   No fault, just responsibility.  We give thanks for lessons and opportunities for growth.  Idam Na Mama (Not my will, but Thy will)
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April 26, 2014
There is power in the open heart.  It is the power to experience, to feel, to be.  When we take down the walls of protection and heal the blockages from the past the light from within begins to illuminate our way.  The open heart is free. The open heart is courageous.  The open heart sees potential and possibilities everywhere and in everyone. The open heart harbors faith and trust.  The open heart sees the Divine within and among us.
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April 26, 2014
When you facilitate counseling, case management, therapy, advocacy, etc:
  1.  Join everyone. Put everyone at ease; Monitor the energy & the relationship
  2. Be Empathetic, to everyone. Model and demonstrate showing understanding; Get clarity
  3.  Reflect and validate feelingsAttend to affect,  everyone’s
  4. Relabel negatives to positives. Block negative definitions; Promote positive definitions
  5.  Reframe, reframe, reframe. Create possibilities; Change perspectives; Change definitions; Shift meanings
  6. Identify discrepancies. Between: thoughts & behavior; behavior & feelings; thoughts & feelings;
  7.  Support self-efficacy. Encourage thoughtfulness;  Help person served make their own decisions
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April 26, 2014
When facilitating a family session, you want to help everyone:
  1. Speak one at a time, without interruptions
  2. Pay attention (eye contact and body posture should reflect
  3.  Listen reflectively/actively
  4.  Respond to speaker
  5.   Use “I” statements (to accept responsibility and demonstrate ownership)
  6.   Make statements rather than ask questions to make points (questions put listener in a defensive position)
  7.  Identify and directly express feelings
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April 26, 2014
Your clients will stay connected to one another if you can help address these rules:
  1. Stick to the present.  Leave the past in the past.
  2. Stick to the subject.  Discuss one issue at a time.
  3. Don’t hit below the belt.  Fight fair.
  4. Don’t quit. Engagement ends when mutually agreed upon.
  5. Don’t try to win, ever. Relating is more important than winning.
  6. No violence physically, mentally or emotionally.
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